Holding Space

Thinking of you all. Missing you. These hands and my heart are still yours! Even if massage therapy is not possible, right now.

Holding space for you, virtually, every day. Let me know how you are doing.

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Your New Role

“In this crisis we are all first responders. How you act can save lives.”

– Andrew M. Cuomo, NY Governor

This statement, spoken during the governor’s daily press briefing, landed on me with the weight of truth and seriousness.

If I’m in danger, I protect myself and don’t want to be hurt by the actions of another. The second is only possible if we all take serious precautions to eliminate the source of danger.

Seeing images and hearing conversations with people who aren’t taking it seriously is terrifying. I’ve faced personal uncertainty in the past and walked around with my own collection of worries, fears, and concerns. This pandemic is heavier because it’s compounded by the local, national, and global fear.

BREATHE. We are all facing this threat. No one is immune. As it unfolds, no one will be untouched. The sooner we all take it seriously, the sooner we will feel the solidarity necessary for our survival and recovery.

What can you do to help?

1. Take it seriously.

2. Follow mandated precautions.

3. Secure yourself first with clean hands and spaces.

4. Do no harm by protecting the vulnerable members of our community.

5. Support the existing healthcare system by not contributing to its overload.

Get used to being a first responder. This lesson is long overdue, but it’s here now.

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Given the current state of the world, it’s imperative to pause any hands-on massage therapy practice. So, let’s dust-off this blog and use it to stay connected.

I’m also preparing videos to keep our focus on selfcare, during this transitional time, for the world and for our local communities.

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The RJR Self-Care Story

Mike Wolpert of  Social Jumpstart is a brilliant guide to business owners, solopreneurs etc who can help us articulate what we do, why we do it, and how our clients benefit from our work.

He invited me to sit for a demonstration of how the personal story, behind RJR Self-Care, can clarify my own goals and growth. Check it out.

The Self-Care Story: Ruben J. Rocha: More Than Massage

Contact Mike here.



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Happy “Give Yourself to Love” Day!

“You must give yourself to love, if love is what you’re after.
Open up your hearts to the tears and laughter,
And give yourself to love, give yourself to love.”

These lyrics are from a song by Kate Wolf. Click the link below, to listen to her sing it live. She was born in San Francisco, and a deep influence, in the Bay Area folk music scene.

Give Yourself to Love (Live) -  Kate Wolf
Give Yourself to Love (Live) – Kate Wolf

Valentine’s Day seems to have been hijacked by the florists, restaurants, card and candy makers. But what if we re-claim it, as “Give Yourself to Love Day?” I’m  setting an intention, throughout that day, to keep my heart OPEN, to receive, as well as share, Love.

Our past hurts, disappointments, and loss can keep us from truly opening our hearts to daily beauty and joy, which balance our sad days. Make self-care part of this week dedicated to Love, starting with the wonderful capacity, in your own heart, for gratitude and peace.

Original artwork by my dear friend, Tamara Holland

Original artwork by my dear friend, Tamara Holland

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Four ways to keep stress away

Great thoughts from a fellow body worker:

Four ways to keep stress away.

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Look Who’s Here!

“Bells and whistles” usually refer to “technology and stuff” but do you have real ones that announce reunions, arrivals, or old-fashioned face-to-face time?

My Mom has a loud brass bell, on the wall, at the back door, leading in from the patio. It’s been there almost 20 years. Why? The grandkids pull on the long cord, to announce their arrival.

My eldest nephew is almost 18, but we have new toddlers, in the grandkid group, so I’m looking forward to hearing that bell, for several more years.

When I visit, even if the grandkids aren’t around, I look at the bell and smile, because I remember their happy expressions, as they announced their arrival.

We have a loud flood horn, in San Anselmo, that gets tested every Friday, at noon. Two weeks in a row, Sally showed up at my office at the exact moment the horn blasted. The second time it happened I decided to call it the “Sally is Here in San Anselmo Siren.”

It used to annoy the hell out of me. But now I associate it with a friend showing up at my office for lunch, or a labyrinth walk, or face-to-face chat.

And in a world of smartphones and texting, an encounter like that deserves a bell, a whistle, or in her case, a happy horn blast.


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