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About RJR Self-Care

By Ruben J. Rocha - Massage therapist in private practice and Instructor at Diamond Light School of Massage and Healing Arts

What Grief Taught Me About Love and Joy

My great-grandparents died twenty days apart. Mom used to tell me that my grandfather was completely devastated to lose his parents so close together. She said that their newly dug graves had mounds of dirt over them, to manage the … Continue reading

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Look Who’s Here!

“Bells and whistles” usually refer to “technology and stuff” but do you have real ones that announce reunions, arrivals, or old-fashioned face-to-face time? My Mom has a loud brass bell, on the wall, at the back door, leading in from … Continue reading

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Today is the Day

You must express love, appreciation, and BE with those who become your “logical” family, through unconditional love and acceptance. Always. One day, we run out of days. We all come from a biological family, but it’s the creative, diverse “logical” … Continue reading

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A Lasting Touch

About a month before she died, my grandmother and I sat in her garage apartment, had snacks, and a nice long evening conversation. Our talks, on the patio, or in her apartment, were always tender, funny, and memorable. And I … Continue reading

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From Massage to Self-Care

How did my practice expand from massage to self-care support, since my training and certifications are in bodywork? This came gradually, through the needs of my clients.(Some of whom have been part of my practice for over a decade.) We … Continue reading

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What is Chi Running?

 “I’d love to start running, but my knees…” So, let’s talk about injury-free running. It is possible, using a gentle form called Chi Running. This practice combines a forward lean, neutral arm swing, mid-foot strike, and engaging the core, to … Continue reading

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SF Marathon Self-Care All-Stars

A 70-year-old client, who ran a marathon for the first time A 30-year-old friend, a veteran marathoner, who had to withdraw the day before, due to illness My client made the completion of this goal a birthday gift. She was … Continue reading

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Fear of Failure or Fear of Action?

Let’s be clear: It’s not fear of failure that keeps most people stuck. It’s fear of action, any action. I’m writing about stubborn inaction, rather than pausing, or taking a legitimate time-out. It takes courage to admit inaction, if we … Continue reading

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Intention for the Week

“You’ll never be effective if you’re convinced tomorrow needs to be better than today, because this belief stems from resistance to the present—and the present is where your power lies.” – Lori Deschene

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Greatest Lesson from Dad

In the early 1970s, on a vacation to CA, we stopped at a rest area for an early morning breakfast. We noticed a homeless man looking through a garbage can for something to eat. Dad asked Mom to get a … Continue reading

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